I have been thinking about the masculine and feminine on both the microcosm and the macrocosm. What goes on in our households is representative of what goes on in society as a whole. There is a ton happening in the collective.
My fiance and I have been talking about him leaving his job and helping me with mine. I am really excited but I think it Will be, like anything, really hard at first. I do feel that the duality is stronger as a whole, not to be confused with one being better or greater than the other. We can all agree that it has been primarily patriarchal for the greater portion of history in reference to our current time.
There is a shift though. The pendulum is swinging. The shift, however, is going to feel really uncomfortable for both the masculine and feminine. Even our social issues are reflected through this particular scope. The LGBT rights are at the forefront. I mean seriously, who uses what bathroom made headlines for a month! In some ways we are becoming slightly androgynous. Maybe this is where we have to go. Maybe God sent us this wave of people geared toward questioning what is masculine and what is feminine to teach and challenge the extreme masculine thinking.
Look at the fashion in the 80’s! Women wore shoulder pads to fit in to the male dominated work force. Thank God that went out of style...just sayin’. Then we went in to this gothic, depression era in the 90’s and now we are celebrating the female form with huge curves and healthy butts. Oh, How I wish that was in when I were in high school!
The “me too” movement was last month and it’s uncomfortable. People are resisting it. Even women. Then there are those who take advantage, exaggerate or minimize it. We all choose a way or a side to lesson the uncomfortableness of this huge shift. I do it, you do it, we all do it.
The shift exists. It’s exciting and scary. If it is all leading to balance though, why put it off? I need my fiancé in my business to grow it. Inassure you, I can grow it. In fact, I have. He can actually stay out of it and I will keep on growing. But together, it will be so much better. As long as we both value what we both bring to the table. He values my feminine but doesn’t try to make it masculine. I value his masculine but don’t try to submiss to it or make it more feminine. He brings structure, I bring creativity. He brings constancy, I bring huge waves of energy and then times of rest. The transition of my allowing him to come in and doing some things his way is really hard and scary. If I stay true to my higher understanding of where it’s heading, it makes it less messy. It makes less friction. It makes me more open to change and celebrate what I am really good at.
If a few of us can recognize this shift in the macrocosm, maybe we can curtail some of the uncomfortableness of this shift. Maybe we don’t have to go all the way in to a feminist society and we can go straight to a balanced one. Defaming men does not make women better. We have been defamed and now we are doing the exact thing to them that has made us fed up. Don’t meet wrong with wrong. We need the masculine just as much as we need the feminine. Let’s forget the power struggle and celebrate both.
I do know that sometimes mirroring what is wrong is the only way to bring it to light. Maybe we have to go there to purify it. But if we all tapped in to a bit of awareness, I think we can avoid a lot of headaches. Let’s celebrate the duality and meet in the center of the pendulum.
i am excited to see this energy of new moon and women circles shift the paradigm in to balance.
Kate Karpel is a breast cancer survivor, writer and traveler. She is passionate about helping others fulfill their full potential through the Young Living lifestyle. Join her as she brings wellness, purpose and abundance to every home in the world.